Spells to Heal a Broken Relationship and Remove Relationship Problems

Last Updated on November 9, 2026 by Wishbonix

Every relationship goes through hard times. The arguments start to repeat, small hurts pile up, and one day you realize you’re living side by side instead of together. Maybe there’s jealousy, distance, doubt, or a breach of trust you’re both trying to get past. Spells to heal a broken relationship are for exactly this point: when you’re still together, or have only taken a break, and you want to save what you have.

These spells clear the heavy energy that builds up between two people, bring back harmony and kindness, and help you both communicate again. On this page you’ll find five relationship healing spells: a Harmony Incense to remove relationship problems at home, a Tarot Spell to balance your relationship, a Bay Leaf Spell to remove doubts, a Ribbon Spell to clarify where you stand, and a New Moon Relationship Reset Spell for a fresh start together. You’ll also find the most common relationship problems and the spell that fits each one.

Healing a relationship is one branch of our guide to love spells. If you’ve already broken up and hope to reunite, see our spells to return a lost lover.

What These Spells Can Do for Your Relationship

Many relationships don’t end because the love is gone, but because anger, jealousy, doubt and bad communication have buried it. After a while, both partners can forget why they’re even upset; they just feel tired and distant. That’s when forgiving and starting over feels hardest.

A spell to heal a relationship works on that buried layer. It can:

• Clear the heavy energy that builds up after repeated fights
• Soften anger and resentment, on both sides
• Bring back warmth, patience and kindness
• Make honest conversations easier
• Help you see clearly whether the relationship has a future

What a spell can’t do is fix a relationship on its own or force your partner to stay. Healing takes two people who are both willing to try. The spells work best alongside honest talks, and often with the help of a couples counselor.

When a Relationship Shouldn’t Be Saved

If your partner is violent, controlling or abusive, please don’t use magic to hold the relationship together. Your safety comes first. Contact someone you trust or a domestic violence helpline (in the US, 1-800-799-7233). A protection spell and real-world support are the right steps then.

Common Relationship Problems and Which Spell to Use

Problem	Spell to try
Constant arguments, tension at home	Harmony Incense, below, or our spell to end an argument
Ups and downs, hot and cold	Tarot Spell to Balance Your Relationship, below
Doubts about your partner or the relationship	Bay Leaf Spell to Remove Doubts, below
Unclear where you stand, mixed signals	Ribbon Spell to Clarify a Relationship, below
You want a fresh start after a hard time	New Moon Relationship Reset Spell, below
Jealousy, cheating, broken trust	Faithfulness spells
Lies or secrets	Spell to tell the truth
Old hurts you can’t let go of	Forgiveness spell
The relationship has cooled and needs sweetness	Full moon honey jar
Your partner won’t commit to the future	Commitment spells, or marriage spells if you’re married

Correspondences for Healing a Relationship

1. Harmony Incense to Remove Relationship Problems

Every relationship faces problems now and then. This spell makes a magical incense from four herbs, charged with runes and the blessing of Hera, goddess of marriage. Burn it during or after an argument, or simply on a quiet evening, to clear the air and bring peace and love back into your home.

What You Will Need

• Two white candles and heat-safe holders
• A pin or carving tool
• A pentacle for your altar (optional)
• A mortar and pestle
• A small glass jar or bottle with a lid
• 3 tablespoons each of dried rose hips, fennel seeds, lavender and rosemary
• Charcoal discs and a heat-safe incense burner with sand, for burning the incense later

How to Make the Harmony Incense

Cast this spell on a Friday during the waxing moon.

1. Prepare your altar. Cast your circle if you work with one. Place one white candle in the center of your altar, with the pentacle in front of it.
2. Carve the second candle. Carve these symbols into the second white candle: a crescent moon for harmony at home, the symbol of Mercury for communication, the symbol of Venus for love, and the runes Kenaz (openness), Mannaz (cooperation) and Wunjo (joy and harmony).
3. Light the candles. Light the center candle first, then light the carved candle from its flame and say: “This flame burns for a loving, peaceful home.” Place the carved candle to the left of your altar and the mortar to the right.
4. Add the herbs. Hold each herb over the pentacle before adding it to the mortar, and say:
   

   Rose hips, I call on you for kindness and love.
   Fennel, I call on you to protect our relationship.
   Lavender, I call on you for peace in our home.
   Rosemary, I call on you for love and blessings in our home.

5. Grind and charge. Grind the herbs clockwise into a powder while you chant:
   

   Through the Goddess and the God,
   through the Moon and the Sun,
   through the elements and the planets,
   through the runes and the herbs,
   with the power and blessing of Hera,
   this incense brings love and harmony to our relationship.
   So mote it be.

6. Bottle it. Put the powder in the jar and leave it on the pentacle for one hour. Then snuff out the candles, thank the elements and open your circle.
7. Use it. Keep the jar in your bedroom. Whenever you need it, burn a pinch of the incense on a lit charcoal disc in a heat-safe burner and let the fragrance fill your home.

Burn charcoal only in a heat-safe burner with sand, open a window, and never leave it unattended.

2. Tarot Spell to Balance Your Relationship

If your relationship swings between closeness and distance, this simple spell uses three cards from the Cups suit of the tarot to balance the energy between you. The Ace of Cups stands for new and renewed love, the Two of Cups for partnership and mutual attraction, and the Ten of Cups for lasting happiness and a loving home.

What You Will Need

• The Ace of Cups, Two of Cups and Ten of Cups from a tarot deck (a spare or inexpensive deck is ideal)
• Rose oil, patchouli oil or orange oil
• A green, pink or red ribbon

How to Cast the Spell

1. On the night of the full moon, take the three cards out of the deck.
2. Dab a little oil on the corners of each card, picturing your relationship calm, warm and balanced.
3. Stack the cards with the Ace on top, the Two in the middle and the Ten at the bottom, and tie them together with the ribbon.
4. Place the bundle under your mattress or pillow.
5. Re-anoint the cards on each full moon to recharge the spell.

3. Bay Leaf Spell to Remove Doubts

Doubts can eat away at a relationship: about your partner, about their feelings, or about whether you’re on the right path together. This meditative spell helps you see your situation clearly and find your own answer. Gold stands for self-confidence and connection with your higher self, and bay leaves have been a symbol of wisdom and victory since ancient Greece. The number 108 is sacred in many spiritual traditions, including Hinduism and Buddhism, where prayer beads often have 108 beads.

What You Will Need

• A gold candle and a heat-safe holder
• 108 dried bay leaves (or as many as you have)

How to Cast the Spell

1. On the new moon or full moon, place the candle on a heat-safe surface and arrange the bay leaves in a circle around it, keeping them well away from the flame.
2. Light the candle and sit quietly. Think about the doubts you carry, and let them rise without judging them.
3. Ask for clarity: “Show me the truth of my heart and of this relationship.”
4. Sit with the flame for 15 to 20 minutes, then snuff it out. Keep the bay leaves in a bowl and repeat the spell whenever you need to.

Answers often come quietly over the following days, in a conversation, a dream or a sudden feeling of certainty. Be patient.

4. Ribbon Spell to Clarify a Relationship

Sometimes you just need to know where you stand: how committed your partner is, what you both want, or where your boundaries are. This braiding spell helps bring the clarity and communication you need. Red stands for the relationship, yellow for communication and white for truth.

What You Will Need

• A red ribbon, a yellow ribbon and a white ribbon, each about 4 feet long

How to Cast the Spell

1. Tie the three ribbons together at one end.
2. Think about your relationship and the question you need answered, and braid the ribbons slowly all the way to the end. Picture the honest conversation you want to have.
3. Tie off the end and place the braid where it receives both daylight and moonlight, such as on a windowsill, for at least three days and three nights.
4. Keep the braid until the clarity or conversation you hoped for has come.

If nothing becomes clearer within a year, undo the braid and let the relationship, and the other person, find their own way. Sometimes clarity means accepting an answer you didn’t hope for.

5. New Moon Relationship Reset Spell

The new moon is the moon’s own fresh start: the old cycle is over and a new one begins in the dark. This spell uses that energy to heal a broken relationship by releasing the old hurts and planting a new beginning for the two of you. It’s especially good after a big fight, a short break-up or a painful period you’ve both decided to move past.

What You Will Need

• Two white candles and heat-safe holders, one for each of you
• Two small pieces of paper and a pen
• A fireproof bowl
• A small pot of soil and a few seeds, such as basil or sunflower
• A glass of water
• A rose quartz

How to Cast the Reset Spell

1. On the night of the new moon, set the two candles side by side with the rose quartz between them, and light them.
2. Release the old. On the first paper, write what you want to leave behind: the fights, the hurt, the distrust, the habits that pulled you apart. Read it once, then burn it in the fireproof bowl, saying: “With the old moon, the old hurt goes. I let it go, for both of us.”
3. Plant the new. On the second paper, write what you want your relationship to be from now on, in the present tense: “We listen to each other. We are kind. We choose each other every day.”
4. Bury your wish. Fold the second paper small, press it into the soil, and plant the seeds on top. Mix a pinch of the cooled ashes into the soil as well, so the old turns into nourishment for the new.
5. Water it and say: “As this seed grows with the moon, so our love grows new.”
6. Close. Let the candles burn for at least 15 minutes, then snuff them out. Keep the pot in a sunny place you both pass every day.

Water the pot as the moon grows, and take each new sprout as a reminder to keep your promises to each other. If your partner is open to it, cast this spell together, each writing one paper of your own.

Helping Your Relationship Heal in Everyday Life

Spells open the door, but healing a relationship happens in daily life:

• Talk at a calm moment, not in the middle of an argument. Use “I feel…” instead of “You always…”.
• Listen to understand, not to answer back.
• Do small kind things again: a message during the day, a cup of coffee, a thank you.
• Make time for each other without phones, chores or children, even just one evening a week.
• Get help. A couples counselor isn’t a sign of failure. Many couples say it saved their relationship.

How Long Does a Relationship Healing Spell Take to Work?

Many couples notice a calmer atmosphere within a few days to a few weeks: fewer fights, softer words, more willingness to talk. Deeper healing, especially after broken trust, usually takes several moon cycles. Recharge the tarot spell each full moon and burn the harmony incense whenever tension builds.

Frequently Asked Questions

Can a spell save my marriage?

A spell can calm conflict, bring back warmth and make honest conversations easier. Saving a marriage still takes both partners being willing to try, often with the help of a counselor.

Is there a new moon spell for a broken relationship?

Yes. The New Moon Relationship Reset Spell on this page releases old hurts with fire and plants a new beginning in soil on the night of the new moon. It’s ideal after a big fight or a short break-up.

Will my partner know I cast a spell?

No. These spells work through your own intention and the energy in your home. None of them involve doing anything to your partner.

Can I cast these spells together with my partner?

Yes, and it can be very powerful. Making the harmony incense or braiding the ribbons together turns the spell into a shared commitment to your relationship.

Which spell should I start with?

If there’s a lot of fighting, start with the Harmony Incense. If you mostly feel unsure, start with the Bay Leaf Spell to Remove Doubts. If you’ve already talked things through and want a fresh start, cast the New Moon Relationship Reset Spell.

What’s the difference between this page and spells to return a lost lover?

This page is for couples who are still together, or have only taken a short break. Return lost lover spells are for after a breakup.

Can these spells help with family problems too?

The harmony incense works well for any household. For conflicts with parents, siblings or in-laws, see our spell to remove family problems.

What if my partner doesn’t want to work on the relationship?

A spell can’t make someone stay. If your partner has made up their mind, a spell to mend a broken heart can help you heal and move forward.