Spells to Heal a Broken Heart

Last Updated on November 4, 2026 by Wishbonix

Heartbreak is one of the heaviest things a person can carry. It sits in your chest, clouds your thoughts and dims even the brightest days. When someone leaves your life, it can feel as if they took a piece of your heart with them. You are not alone in this, and healing is possible.

Magic can be a gentle companion on that path. Spells to heal a broken heart don’t erase your memories or pretend the pain isn’t real. They help you release grief, anger and longing, find closure, and slowly open your heart to love again, starting with love for yourself.

On this page you’ll find three spells for the different stages of heartbreak, a self-care guide for the brokenhearted, and honest advice on when it’s time to ask for more help. These spells are part of our wider guides to love spells and healing spells.

How Spells Help Heal a Broken Heart

Spells for a broken heart work on you, not on the other person. They give shape to feelings that are hard to put into words. Writing a name, burning a paper, cutting a cord or burying a bundle of herbs are symbolic acts that tell your mind and heart: this chapter is ending, and I am allowed to heal.

Many people find that this brings a sense of control at a time when everything feels chaotic. The rituals encourage you to feel and release your emotions safely, to accept what happened, and to turn your attention back to your own life.

These spells are not about getting your ex back. If you both still have feelings and want to try again, our spells to return a lost lover are the right place. This page is for letting go and healing.

Which Spell Is Right for You?

Heartbreak has stages, and each spell below fits a different one:

• The pain is fresh and raw: the Spell to Heal a Broken Heart, a cleansing ritual to soothe the first, sharpest pain
• The worst is over, but sadness lingers: the Verbena Spell to Mend a Broken Heart, a seven-day ritual to repair the cracks
• You keep thinking about them and can’t let go: the Cord-Cutting Spell to Get Over Someone, to release the emotional tie

Correspondences for Healing Heartbreak

• Element: Water, for emotions, tears and cleansing
• Moon phase: the waning moon for letting go, the new moon for fresh beginnings
• Colors: white for healing, pink for self-love, light blue for peace, black for releasing
• Herbs and plants: lavender, lemon balm, rosemary, white rose, violet, myrrh, myrtle, verbena, yarrow, chamomile
• Crystals: rose quartz, rhodonite, green aventurine, jade, blue lace agate, lapis lazuli
• Goddesses and gods: Kuan Yin (compassion), Isis (healing and devotion), Aphrodite (love for oneself), Brigid (healing)

1. Spell to Heal a Broken Heart

When heartbreak is fresh, the pain can feel overwhelming. This cleansing ritual helps you release the raw ache and creates a quiet space inside you where peace can begin to grow. Four candles stand for the four directions, and the cauldron in the middle stands for your heart, the place where pain is transformed.

What You Will Need

• 4 white candles and heat-safe holders, for healing and light
• Jasmine incense, for peace
• 3 drops of lavender oil, to calm and soothe
• 1 tablespoon of dried blueberries, for renewal
• 1 tablespoon of tamarind, for emotional release
• 1 tablespoon of dried mint, to uplift
• 1 tablespoon of sea salt, to purify
• 1 tablespoon of rainwater and 1 tablespoon of soil, for grounding
• A sheet of paper and a pencil or piece of charcoal
• A cauldron or fireproof pot
• A small pouch or envelope

How to Cast the Spell

Cast this spell during the waning moon, the phase of letting go.

1. Prepare your space. Find a quiet place where you can be alone and light the jasmine incense.
2. Light the candles. Place the four white candles at the four directions, north, east, south and west, and light them one by one. With each flame, picture light entering your life.
3. Place the cauldron in the middle. It stands for your heart.
4. Write your name on the paper. As you write, imagine the weight of your heartbreak flowing onto the page. If you’re casting this for a friend, write their name instead, with their permission.
5. Add lavender. Let three drops of lavender oil fall onto your name.
6. Fill the cauldron. Tear the paper into three pieces and place them in the cauldron. Add the blueberries, tamarind, mint and sea salt one by one, seeing each as a step toward healing.
7. Seal with wax. Let three drops of wax fall into the cauldron from each candle in turn: west, south, east and north. Say: “I release this pain and welcome peace.”
8. Burn and release. Light the paper in the cauldron and watch the smoke rise, carrying away the heaviness. Breathe slowly.
9. Make your token. When the ashes are completely cold, mix them with the rainwater and soil and place the mixture in the pouch.
10. Bury it. The same night, bury the pouch outside. Picture your pain sinking into the earth, and walk away without looking back.

Burn the paper only in a fireproof container, keep water nearby, and never leave candles burning unattended. Repeat the spell on a later waning moon if you need to.

2. Verbena Spell to Mend a Broken Heart

When the sharpest pain has passed, what often remains are doubts, sadness and moments when the hurt comes back. This seven-day spell helps repair those cracks, so you can carry a whole heart into the future. Verbena has been used for healing and protection since ancient times; in this spell, it carries your sorrow for a week and then returns it to the earth.

What You Will Need

• A small bundle of verbena (vervain)
• A piece of natural string or yarn
• Three candles, white or pink, in jars or lanterns for outdoors
• A small trowel

How to Cast the Spell

1. Begin seven days before the new moon. Tie the string firmly around the verbena bundle. Hold it in your hands and focus on your wish to release the pain.
2. Carry it with you. For the next seven days, keep the bundle in your pocket or bag, close to you, as a healing charm.
3. On the night of the new moon, go outside, place the three candles in a triangle around you and light them.
4. Untie the string. Remove the string from the verbena. This is the moment your heart is released.
5. Bury the bundle. Find a strong, calm tree. Dig a small hole near its roots and bury the verbena and string together, picturing the earth absorbing your sorrow.
6. Close the spell. Blow out the candles one by one, saying:
   

   First candle: I return the love I gave you to nature, as I return the verbena to the earth.
   Second candle: I am released from my sorrow, as the verbena is released from the string.
   Third candle: With this last flame, I let you go in peace, and I open my heart to new love.

Take a moment in silence before you go back inside. In the days that follow, notice when the sadness feels lighter.

3. Cord-Cutting Spell to Get Over Someone

Sometimes the relationship is over, but your thoughts keep returning to the person. This cord-cutting spell helps you release the emotional tie that still binds you, gently and with gratitude for what was. It doesn’t harm the other person; it simply sets you free.

What You Will Need

• A black candle, for releasing
• A white candle, for new beginnings
• Two heat-safe candle holders
• A small rose quartz
• 1 tablespoon of dried sage or a cleansing incense
• A bowl of spring water
• A piece of paper and a red pen
• A piece of string or ribbon and scissors
• A fireproof bowl or cauldron

How to Cast the Spell

Cast this spell during the waning moon.

1. Cleanse your space. Burn the sage or incense and set out your items.
2. Light the candles. Place the black candle on your left and the white one on your right. Light the black candle first, for release, then the white candle, for the new life you’re inviting in.
3. Write it down. Write the person’s name on the paper. Underneath, write the feelings, memories or habits you’re ready to release, honestly and specifically.
4. Tie the cord. Wrap the string loosely around the paper. Hold the rose quartz in your other hand and close your eyes. Feel the tie between you.
5. Cut the cord. Cut the string with the scissors. This is the moment the emotional bond is released.
6. Burn the paper and string in the fireproof bowl. Breathe deeply as your heart feels lighter.
7. Cleanse. When the flames are out, pour the spring water over the ashes.
8. Affirm. Hold the rose quartz to your chest and say three times:
   

   I release this love with kindness and gratitude.
   I welcome love for myself and the happiness I deserve.

9. Close the spell. Snuff out the black candle first, ending this chapter, then the white candle, sealing your new beginning. Pour the water and ashes onto the earth outside.

Keep the rose quartz with you in the weeks that follow as a reminder to be kind to yourself.

A Self-Care Guide for the Brokenhearted

Heartbreak can make us act in ways that seem irrational to others. You might feel you’d give anything to get the person back, even things you once couldn’t accept. That’s the heartbreak speaking. There’s no magic cure, but there are ways to guide yourself toward healing. The spells above work best alongside these steps.

1. Let Yourself Grieve

Cry, write in a journal, talk to a trusted friend or scream into a pillow. Your feelings are valid, and pushing them away only makes healing take longer. Avoid numbing the pain with alcohol or drugs. They make it worse afterward.

2. Create Some Distance

Pack photos, letters and gifts into a box and store it somewhere out of sight. You don’t have to throw them away. Mute or unfollow your ex on social media for a while, and resist the urge to check on them.

3. Rediscover Yourself

Make plans for your free time: coffee with friends, walks in nature, a new hobby or class. Every activity brings you a step closer to your own life again.

4. Refresh Your Space and Yourself

Rearrange your furniture, repaint a wall or redecorate. Try a new haircut or new clothes. Small changes signal a fresh start, to you and the world.

5. Rebuild Your Confidence

A breakup is not a measure of your worth. Spend time with people who lift you up. Don’t rush into a new relationship until you’ve healed. When you’re ready, our true love spells can help you open your heart to someone new.

6. Ride the Ups and Downs

Some days you’ll feel strong; others, the sadness comes back. That’s normal. Healing isn’t a straight line. Creative outlets like painting, music, dancing or writing can turn grief into something meaningful.

When Heartbreak Becomes Too Heavy

Sometimes heartbreak turns into something deeper. If you’re struggling to eat or sleep for weeks, can’t get through the day, feel hopeless, or the sadness doesn’t lift, please talk to a doctor, therapist or counselor. That’s not a failure. It’s another way of caring for your heart. Spells can support your healing, but they don’t replace real help.

If you’re thinking about harming yourself, please reach out right away: call or text 988 in the US to reach the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, or contact your local emergency number or crisis line.

How Long Does It Take to Heal a Broken Heart?

There’s no fixed timeline. Many people feel a little lighter within a few weeks of casting a healing spell and taking care of themselves, but full healing after a long relationship can take months. Be patient with yourself. Each small step counts.

Frequently Asked Questions

Do spells to heal a broken heart work?

They can help you process your feelings, release the pain and find closure, especially alongside self-care and support from friends. They can’t make the hurt disappear overnight.

Will a broken heart spell make me forget my ex?

No. You’ll still have your memories, but they’ll hurt less. The goal is peace, not forgetting.

Which spell should I start with?

If the pain is fresh, start with the Spell to Heal a Broken Heart. If you mainly can’t stop thinking about the person, choose the Cord-Cutting Spell.

What is the best moon phase for healing heartbreak?

The waning moon for releasing pain, and the new moon for fresh beginnings.

Can I cast a broken heart spell for a friend?

Yes, if they want you to. Write their name instead of yours. Even better, cast it together.

Should I cast a spell to get my ex back instead?

Only if you both still have feelings and the relationship was good for you. If it ended for good reasons, healing will bring you more happiness in the long run.

Can I do these spells more than once?

Yes. Healing takes time. Repeat a spell on a later moon cycle whenever you need it.