Commitment and Marriage Spells to Strengthen Your Bond

Last Updated on November 2, 2026 by Wishbonix

You love each other, you’ve been together for a while, and you know you want a future with this person. Yet the relationship seems stuck: the talk about moving in together keeps getting postponed, the proposal never comes, or your partner says they’re “happy the way things are”. Commitment and marriage spells are made for exactly this point in a relationship. They strengthen the bond you already share, help both of you feel safe enough to take the next step, and bless your union for the years ahead.

On this page you’ll find three spells: a Handfasting Cord Spell for deeper commitment, a Ring and Rose Proposal Spell, and a Turmeric Blessing for marriage inspired by the Hindu haldi ceremony. You’ll also find the best timing and correspondences, and honest advice on what these spells can do and when a conversation is the better magic.

Commitment spells are one branch of love magic. Our complete guide to love spells covers the others, from attraction to reconciliation.

Commitment Spells vs. Marriage Spells

• Commitment spells strengthen the bond in a relationship that is already serious but hasn’t settled: moving in together, making it official, or simply both being sure about the future.
• Marriage and proposal spells are for couples who are ready for the step to engagement and marriage, or for blessing a marriage that is about to begin.

If you’re not in a relationship yet, start with true love spells to find the right person. If the problem is trust rather than commitment, faithfulness spells are the better choice, and if the two of you are going through a rough patch, a spell to heal a relationship comes first.

What Commitment and Marriage Spells Can and Can’t Do

A commitment spell works with the love that’s already there. It can calm fears, soften old wounds from past relationships, bring the two of you closer and create the right moment for a serious conversation or a proposal. Many couples notice that talking about the future suddenly feels easier and less tense.

What a spell can’t do is make someone want to marry you against their will. A proposal that comes from pressure, magical or otherwise, is not the start you want for a marriage. That’s why the spells on this page ask for the bond to grow if it is right for both of you.

Before casting, be honest with yourself:

• Do you want to marry this person, or do you mainly want the security of being married?
• Have you told your partner clearly what you want?
• Does your partner treat you with respect and kindness?
• Are there reasons for their hesitation that a spell can’t fix, such as money worries, a past divorce or different life plans?

Why Partners Hesitate to Commit

Understanding what holds your partner back helps you choose the right spell and the right words. Common reasons include fear after a painful divorce or breakup, money and career worries, parents whose marriage ended badly, or simply feeling that marriage “changes things”. None of these mean your partner doesn’t love you. A commitment spell can ease these fears, while patient, honest conversations do the rest.

Correspondences for Commitment and Marriage

Some plants in older marriage spell lists, such as mistletoe, are poisonous. Use herbs for spellwork only and keep them away from children and pets.

1. Handfasting Cord Spell for Commitment

“Tying the knot” is an old way of saying “getting married”, and it comes from the custom of handfasting, in which a couple’s hands were bound together with cords as a sign of their promise. Handfasting is still part of many pagan and Wiccan weddings today. This spell uses the same knot magic to strengthen the commitment between you and your partner.

What You Will Need

• Three cords or ribbons about 3 feet long: red (love and passion), white (truth and loyalty) and green or gold (growth and a shared future)
• A pink candle and a heat-safe holder
• Rose or jasmine oil
• A rose quartz
• A photo of the two of you, or two small pieces of paper with your names

How to Cast the Handfasting Cord Spell

1. Prepare. On a Friday evening during the waxing moon, cleanse your space. Anoint the pink candle with a little rose or jasmine oil, place it in its holder and light it. Lay the photo or the two names in front of it with the rose quartz on top.
2. Tie the three cords together at one end with a single knot.
3. Braid them slowly. As you braid, think about the life you hope to build together: your home, your plans, the way you take care of each other. With every few crossings, say quietly: “Two lives, one path, woven with love.”
4. Tie nine knots along the braid. With each knot, say one of these lines:
   

   By knot of one, our bond’s begun.
   By knot of two, our love is true.
   By knot of three, we choose to be.
   By knot of four, we open the door.
   By knot of five, our hopes alive.
   By knot of six, our promise fixed.
   By knot of seven, blessed by heaven.
   By knot of eight, we share one fate.
   By knot of nine, your heart and mine.

5. Bless the cord. Pass the braided cord carefully above the flame (not through it) three times, and ask that your bond grow strong if it is right for you both.
6. Close the spell. Let the candle burn for at least an hour while you stay in the room, or let it burn down. Wrap the cord around the photo or the names and keep it with the rose quartz in your bedroom, ideally in a drawer you use every day.

If your partner is open to it, you can cast this spell together. Braiding the cord as a couple and saying the knot lines to each other turns it into a beautiful commitment ritual of its own.

2. Ring and Rose Proposal Spell

This proposal spell is inspired by Hoodoo, the African American folk magic tradition, which has a long history of love and marriage work with roots and charms. Instead of roots for control, this version uses orris root, known in Hoodoo as Queen Elizabeth root, a classic root for drawing love and favor, together with rose and cinnamon. It works on the bond between you and creates the right energy for a proposal.

What You Will Need

• A ring (a simple or inexpensive ring is fine; it stands for the engagement ring)
• A small printed photo of the two of you, without a frame
• A charcoal disc and a heat-safe incense burner with sand
• A teaspoon of dried rose petals
• A pinch of ground cinnamon
• A small piece of orris root (Queen Elizabeth root)
• A small red velvet pouch

How to Cast the Ring and Rose Proposal Spell

1. On the night of the full moon, roll the photo of the two of you into a thin tube and slide it through the ring.
2. Light the charcoal disc in the incense burner and wait until it glows. Sprinkle the rose petals and cinnamon onto it.
3. Hold the ring and photo in the fragrant smoke and picture your partner asking you to marry them: where you are, what they say, how happy you both feel.
4. Say: “With rose for love and cinnamon fire, bring the day we both desire. If our hearts are one and true, let the question come to you.”
5. Place the ring, the photo and the orris root in the red pouch, together with a pinch of the cooled ashes.
6. Keep the pouch in your own bedside drawer, under your side of the mattress, or carry it with you until the proposal comes.

Let the charcoal burn out completely in the burner before you leave the room, and open a window for fresh air.

This spell works best alongside honesty. If you haven’t yet told your partner that you’d like to get married, tell them. Many proposals are delayed simply because one partner isn’t sure the other wants one.

3. Turmeric Blessing for Marriage (Inspired by the Haldi Ceremony)

In Hindu weddings, the haldi ceremony takes place a day or two before the wedding. Family and friends apply a paste of turmeric (haldi), sandalwood and rosewater to the bride and groom for blessing, protection, good fortune and a happy marriage. This spell borrows that blessing for anyone who hopes for marriage or wants to bless a marriage that is about to begin.

What You Will Need

• 1 tablespoon of turmeric powder
• 1 teaspoon of sandalwood powder (or a little extra turmeric if you can’t find it)
• Rosewater (or plain water) to make a paste
• A small bowl and spoon
• A yellow or gold candle and a heat-safe holder
• An old towel and old clothes, since turmeric stains

How to Cast the Turmeric Blessing

1. On a Friday or Monday morning during the waxing moon, light the candle and mix the turmeric, sandalwood and rosewater into a smooth paste. Stir clockwise and think of the marriage you hope for: joy, kindness, health and good fortune.
2. Apply a thin layer of the paste to your arms, hands and feet, and, if you like, a little to your cheeks. As you do, say: “With golden blessing, I prepare my heart for a happy union, rich in love, health and joy.”
3. Sit quietly for 10 to 15 minutes while the paste dries, picturing your wedding day and the years after it.
4. Rinse the paste off with warm water and snuff out the candle.

Test the paste on a small patch of skin first, and leave it on for only a short time, as turmeric can stain the skin yellow for a day or two. If you are pregnant or have sensitive skin, ask your doctor first. If you’re engaged, you can share this ritual with your partner, friends or family, just like a real haldi.

Which Spell Is Right for You?

• Your partner won’t commit or talk about the future: the Handfasting Cord Spell
• You’re ready for a proposal: the Ring and Rose Proposal Spell
• You’re engaged, or hoping for marriage and want blessings for it: the Turmeric Blessing
• You want to renew your vows or strengthen a long marriage: cast the Handfasting Cord Spell together on your anniversary
• You’re drawn to the Egyptian goddesses: try the Egyptian marriage spell with Hathor and Isis

How Long Does a Commitment or Marriage Spell Take?

Most people notice the first changes within one to three moon cycles: your partner talks more openly about the future, mentions moving in together or marriage, or simply seems more settled and secure with you. A proposal can take longer, often several months, because people want to plan it and save for a ring. Give it time and don’t recast the spell every few weeks.

Signs Your Commitment Spell Is Working

• Your partner talks about “we” and future plans more often
• They introduce you to more of their family and friends
• Conversations about moving in, holidays next year or marriage feel easier
• Old fears or arguments about commitment come up less often
• You feel calmer and more secure in the relationship

Talk About It: The Most Powerful Commitment Magic

A spell opens the door, but the most direct way to commitment is still a calm, honest conversation. Choose a relaxed moment, tell your partner what you hope for and why, and ask what they want and what worries them. Listen without pressure. If you have very different plans, such as one of you never wanting to marry, it’s better to know that now. A couples counselor can help if the topic keeps leading to arguments.

Working with a Spell Caster

If you’d rather have an experienced practitioner cast a commitment or marriage spell for you, choose carefully. Be wary of anyone who promises a proposal by a certain date, offers to “bind” your partner to you, or keeps asking for more money. Our guide to fake and scam spell casters lists the warning signs, and our recommended spell casters page explains how we choose the practitioners we trust.

Frequently Asked Questions

Do marriage spells work?

They can strengthen the love and commitment that already exist and create the right moment for a proposal. They can’t make someone marry you against their will, and they work best alongside honest conversations about the future.

Can a spell make my boyfriend or girlfriend propose?

A proposal spell can encourage your partner to think seriously about your future together and help clear their fears. Whether and when they propose is still their decision.

Is a marriage spell a binding spell?

No. The spells on this page bless and strengthen a relationship; they don’t bind anyone. Binding someone to you against their will is a form of manipulation that often backfires. Read more about binding spells and why love bindings go wrong.

Can I cast a commitment spell without my partner knowing?

Yes. These spells work through your own energy and intention, and none of them involve doing anything to your partner. If your partner is open to magic, casting the Handfasting Cord Spell together is especially beautiful.

Can I do the commitment spell in the shower instead of a bath?

None of the spells on this page need a bathtub. For a cleansing before any of them, a shower with a little sea salt rubbed on your arms works well.

What is the best day for a marriage spell?

Friday, the day of Venus, during the waxing moon or at the full moon. Beltane (May 1) is a traditional time for handfasting and commitment magic.

How long does it take for a marriage spell to work?

Usually one to three moon cycles for first signs, and often several months for a proposal. Three weeks is too early to judge a commitment spell.

Can I cast these spells for a same-sex relationship?

Yes. All of these spells work for any couple.